The FNS 40's recoil is not bad at all as .40s go. It's definitely controllable. I have shot a few different 40 cals (XD, Kahr, Ruger, Fnx, FNS and sig). The recoil on the FNS is much softer than some but certainly more muzzle flip than a 9mm. I'd say go rent one and see how it feels to you. That's the only way you will truly know.